What does it mean to be whole?

Not sister, not mother, not wife, not daughter.
Start where you are, who you are.
This place that holds you does not define you,
Not confined to corsets or balanced by bras.
To love myself, just as I am.
To know myself, just as I am.
To hear myself, just as I am.
And
I’m buttering the toast,
And the lawn needs mowing,
And it’s bin day.